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Rule #28: It’s Not You, It’s Me “Honey, it’s not you, it’s me.” “I need time to work on me.” “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” At some point in life, you’ll hear one of these … Continue reading →

Rule #21: We Seek Dignity Dignity comes from the Latin dignitas, meaning “worthiness.” In my 50s, I’ve watched many friends struggle with the illness or loss of their parents, just as I once did. Caring for those who once cared … Continue reading →

Rule #57: Believe in Cow Tipping My father used to tell me stories from his teenage years in Nebraska, where he and his friends would sneak into fields at night and tip over cows. For those who’ve never heard of … Continue reading →

Rule #15(a): Legacy Matters With the passing of my father in May the most startling reality for me is that I will likely not have the time complete every dream or hope I have in my lifetime. Although  I am … Continue reading →

Rule # 1d- Love one another This is the Eulogy I gave for my father a week  ago. My kids have asked if this was really rule #1, and although it was , it was rule 1(d), and I continue to … Continue reading →

Rule # 27: “D” is for Done At my Dad’s funeral this week I was overwhelmed by the quality and insight-fulness of the Eulogies done for him by the Pastor, Friends and my Sons. In each of them I have … Continue reading →

Rule #50: Dancing solves problems “Any problem in the world can be solved by dancing”- James Brown The Godfather of Soul sure knew what he was talking about when when he said this. I have no rhythm. I have very little grace. … Continue reading →

Rule #47:  When all else fails help someone “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation. From the desperate city you go into the desperate country, and have to console yourself with … Continue reading →

Rule#7: Deal with your truth I have watched my children, family members and close friends all struggle at one time or another with the “pains of life”. They have all faced loss, unfairness in life and the hurt inflicted by … Continue reading →

Rule # 72: Remember Valentine’s Day Love is patient. It does not envy, it does not boast, its is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of … Continue reading →